Question
I really need some help. I have been married for 9 years. Just recently my husband has changed a lot. His attitude has become very devilish. He enjoys playing music, drinking, being on facebook, talking to women etc. He told me he is not attracted to me anymore and is very distant and horrible. I am trying my best to be nice and save the marriage. I really need a wazifa or prayer (dua) to bring back the man I married who had a lot of love in his heart for me. He says he loves me, but he has distanced himself so much from me that he does not see beyond that.
Answer
This is indeed a sorry state of affairs. Perhaps you can use the services of a third party who has influence on him. As for your own self is concerned, there is a suggestion which may be very difficult for you, but there is a slight chance that it might improve matters. Besides praying very hard to Allah, try to become a model wife for at least one month. In fact, given your condition, you might have to pretend and act (and maybe overact) for this. Do not show the slightest reaction to any of your husband’s bad habits. On the contrary, treat him as if he is the best husband in the world. Encourage him, laud all his good habits even if he does not have much of them. Tell him that you love him very much and that you pray that no troubles come his way. Also think of other ways and means to please him to the utmost. Cook his favorite food. Take him out for a dinner. Give him a present. In short, do all you can to bring out your moral superiority and pray to Allah that this might awaken your husband’s conscience.
This is a bit of psychological treatment which has the potential of working with such husbands. Who knows, it might work in your case. May Allah set right your spouse for you and that you live as a very happy family.
Answered by: Dr. Shehzad Saleem
Date: 2015-01-22
