Repentance After Committing Adultery


Question

I am a 29 year old divorced female. I keep meeting the wrong men, I have met too many and I am hurt. Is there a supplication I can read to help me?

Answer

I suggest the best thing you can do is repentance (istikhara). This simply means to beg to your Lord asking Him for good outcomes in things you do, in particular in terms of relationships. Preferably you can do two rak’ah prayers and then pray to God for this or you can just pray.

There is a specific wording mentioned for such supplication in Ahadith that follows:

اللهم إني أستخيرك بعلمك وأستقدرك بقدرتك وأسألك من فضلك العظيم فإنك تقدر ولا أقدر وتعلم ولا أعلم وأنت علام الغيوب اللهم إن كنت تعلم أن هذا الأمر خير لي في ديني ومعاشي وعاقبة أمري أو قال في عاجل أمري وآجله فاقدره لي وإن كنت تعلم أن هذا الأمر شر لي في ديني ومعاشي وعاقبة أمري أو قال في عاجل أمري وآجله فاصرفه عني واصرفني عنه واقدر لي الخير حيث كان ثم رضني به

O Allah! I seek goodness through Your Knowledge and through Your Might I seek strength, and I beg from You Your great blessings, because You have the might and I do not have the might. You know everything and I do not know, and You have knowledge of the unseen. Oh Allah! If in Your Knowledge this action [which I intend to do] is better with regard to my religion, my life and my fate then destine it for me and make it easy for me and then add blessings to it for me. O Allah! In Your knowledge if this action is bad for me, for my religion and for my fate, then turn it away from me and [O Allah!] whatever is better for me, ordain that for me wherever it is, and then make me satisfied with it.

You may do the above supplication and add your own words at the end to make it more customized for your own inquiry.

Answered by: Farhad Shafti

Date: 2015-03-03