{"id":5913,"date":"2024-07-10T07:41:44","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T07:41:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-mawrid.org\/questions-en\/2024\/07\/10\/predicament-of-a-gay-person\/"},"modified":"2024-07-10T13:27:08","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T13:27:08","slug":"predicament-of-a-gay-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-mawrid.org\/questions-en\/predicament-of-a-gay-person\/","title":{"rendered":"Predicament Of A Gay Person"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Question<\/h3>\n<p>I  am a gay person who cannot leave this habit. When I was thirteen a man  abused me by force. I was again abused by others and I left the country.  Now I am in a foreign country. During the month of Ramadan I keep  fasting and offer regular prayer. I see good dream. I see Madinah fly in  the air. Please help me what can I do to be forgiven by God. I know I  am a very bad person. How can I leave this habit? I really hate myself  and want to kill myself. I am the only male child of my parents and if I  commit suicide then my sisters and mother will suffer badly. They love  me too much. Is there a way to get out? I am not basically a bad person.  <\/p>\n<h3>Answer<\/h3>\n<p>First, you need to get hold of yourself and overcome your dejection and frustration.<\/p>\n<div>Second, in the eyes of the Almighty, it is not the sin, but the attitude one adopts after it that matters. <\/div>\n<div>Third,  repeated repentance even if one commits a sin again and again must be  sought for it is Satan&#8217;s special scheme to frustrate a person by  inspiring in him the notion that how can the Almighty forgive a person  if he keeps committing the same sin again and again.<\/div>\n<div>Fourth, it would not be a bad idea to consult a good psychotherapist who might be of help to you.<\/div>\n<div>Finally, please try to get up to pray the <em>tahajjud<\/em> prayer whenever you can and seek special help from the Almighty to give you the will power to overcome this inclination.<\/div>\n<div>May God always protect you from Satan and his plots.<\/div>\n<p><strong>Answered by:<\/strong> Dr. Shehzad Saleem<\/p>\n<p><strong>Date:<\/strong> 2015-03-07<\/p>\n<button class=\"simplefavorite-button\" data-postid=\"5913\" data-siteid=\"1\" data-groupid=\"1\" data-favoritecount=\"0\" style=\"\">Favorite <i class=\"sf-icon-star-empty\"><\/i><\/button>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I  am a gay person who cannot leave this habit. When I was thirteen a man  abused me by force. I was again abused by others and I left the country.  Now I am in a foreign country. During the month of Ramadan I keep  fasting and offer regular prayer. I see good dream. I see Madinah fly in  the air. Please help me what can I do to be forgiven by God. I know I  am a very bad person. How can I leave this habit? I really hate myself  and want to kill myself. I am the only male child of my parents and if I  commit suicide then my sisters and mother will suffer badly. They love  me too much. Is there a way to get out? I am not basically a bad person.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":14147,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1162],"tags":[1453,1198,1454],"class_list":["post-5913","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-social-issues","tag-adult","tag-adultery","tag-gayism"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Predicament Of A Gay Person - Al-Mawrid Queries<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/al-mawrid.org\/questions-en\/predicament-of-a-gay-person\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Predicament Of A Gay Person - Al-Mawrid Queries\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I am a gay person who cannot leave this habit. 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