{"id":6636,"date":"2024-07-10T07:43:42","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T07:43:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-mawrid.org\/questions-en\/2024\/07\/10\/dealing-with-internal-family-issues\/"},"modified":"2024-07-10T13:26:50","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T13:26:50","slug":"dealing-with-internal-family-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-mawrid.org\/questions-en\/dealing-with-internal-family-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing With Internal Family Issues"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Question<\/h3>\n<p>I  have a big problem in my life and I cannot discuss it with anyone. I am  19 years old. I am confiding this to you because I have been assured  that anything I tell you will not be displayed to anyone else. My father  is in his 60s. He has a severe anger problem. Since childhood I have  seen my father yell at my mother frequently just for minor things. He is  very aggressive. Two years ago he got so angry that he even hit her. He  hit her one day and the next day he promised that he would not do it  again. This year in May he hit her again. I was having my final exams  and so I was very depressed and because he had promised not to hit again  so I got angry. I said a few things which I should not have. He hit her  the next day too. The thing is that I have been having nightmares since  then. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking that he hit her  again. And then I cannot sleep. I am scared of my father. He is always  angry. My head is hurting all the time. What do I need to do?<\/p>\n<h3>Answer<\/h3>\n<p>This  is indeed a very disturbing scenario. May God guide your father to  control his anger. Actually, the situation needs to be addressed at both  levels: how to deal with such a father, and how to cope with the mental  pressure caused. <\/p>\n<div>As  far as the first is concerned, please see if you can involve some elder  of the family and confide in him and request him\/her to talk to your  father. You yourself can write a polite letter\/email to him telling him  how this badly affects you and causes severe mental pressure. Also  continuously pray to God to guide your father. Prayers have great  effects and we should not underestimate the power of prayers.<\/div>\n<p>As for your own mental wellbeing and health, please do consult a good psychologist. Such treatment and therapy does help.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Answered by:<\/strong> Dr. Shehzad Saleem<\/p>\n<p><strong>Date:<\/strong> 2015-01-22<\/p>\n<button class=\"simplefavorite-button\" data-postid=\"6636\" data-siteid=\"1\" data-groupid=\"1\" data-favoritecount=\"0\" style=\"\">Favorite <i class=\"sf-icon-star-empty\"><\/i><\/button>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I  have a big problem in my life and I cannot discuss it with anyone. I am  19 years old. I am confiding this to you because I have been assured  that anything I tell you will not be displayed to anyone else. My father  is in his 60s. He has a severe anger problem. Since childhood I have  seen my father yell at my mother frequently just for minor things. He is  very aggressive. Two years ago he got so angry that he even hit her. He  hit her one day and the next day he promised that he would not do it  again. This year in May he hit her again. I was having my final exams  and so I was very depressed and because he had promised not to hit again  so I got angry. I said a few things which I should not have. He hit her  the next day too. The thing is that I have been having nightmares since  then. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking that he hit her  again. And then I cannot sleep. I am scared of my father. He is always  angry. My head is hurting all the time. 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